So last week, I posted about my long distance relationship and I have some news for y’all. Jake broke up with me two nights later, completely out of the blue. At first I was so upset and angry and now, I’m relieved as crazy as that sounds. So in the same style as my long distance post, here are a few things I’ve learned in the past few days of dealing with a breakup.
It’s okay to be sad. When Jake dumped me, I had no idea it was coming. We were doing just fine except for a few small fights here and there like normal couples but there was no indication of him breaking up with me the days prior. And I was so sad when he did it. Like sobbing uncontrollably, shaking, and hyperventilating sad. He’s broken up with me before but it was just as bad. I thought I found my person and when my person didn’t want to be with me anymore, it was a terrible feeling. So I let myself be sad that night and then decided that I’m not going to waste tears or being sad on him anymore.
Channel your inner boss ass bitch. Excuse my language but one thing that really helped was knowing that I only have to focus on me now. For some reason, I become ten times more confident when I’m single and feel like I can conquer the world. What helps me channel that is wearing outfits that make me feel sexy and confident such as this outfit that I wore last night. It also helps to jam out to some Demi Lovato or Beyonce to make you feel good.
Do what you need to do to get your mind off of the breakup. Whether it be downloading dating apps like Tinder or Bumble or shamelessly flirting with guys while out, it’s a great way to take your mind off of it. Back in the day after breakups, I would download Tinder/Bumble for a good confidence booster. And you know what? That’s exactly what I did this time. I don’t want a boyfriend anytime soon but I will definitely let guys tell me I’m gorgeous and offer to take me out for dinner and drinks.
Don’t keep giving a guy chances. I kept giving Jake chances to make this work. But clearly it didn’t. Based on that and other past relationships, I definetly now know to not give a guy a second, third, or whatever chance. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. Fool me again and again, I want nothing to do with you.
Enjoy being single. I’m the only single roommate in my house and it’s weird but I’m going to enjoy it. I don’t have to worry about anyone else but myself and it’s honestly a great feeling. If I don’t want to work out, then no one can get mad at me. If I want to lay in bed all day and binge watch Netflix, no one will tell me to get off my butt and do something productive. I’m only 22 and I should be enjoying my 20’s because I have so much to look forward to and I don’t need man in my life to do those things with.